Bob was my father-in–law, my mentor, and my friend…

Bob and I had a complicated relationship, we kind of started on rocky ground. I mean in all fairness I was dating his daughter and I was pretty much every fathers nightmare. I was the bad boy, I had a fast car, and crazy friends, and most importantly I didn’t have any real future prospects. Bob on the other hand was a retired senior chief from the U.S. Navy, and was working for the government, working on a second retirement.

We had our qualms, but in the end we both knew that each other loved his daughter (now my wife and mother to my kids). We worked on our relationship, and though it was rocky in the beginning, I came to rely on Bob as a father figure (something I didn’t really have growing up).

Bob had skills that would scare you, he was good at everything and what he wasn’t good at, he would research for so long you would think he was a pro. He taught me so much without even knowing it. I could call him about anything and he would be able to talk me through it, no matter what it was. He was the hardest working man I have ever met, and his rationale was beyond the understanding of normal people. It took me years to figure out that I was emulating him, and that is what led us to the relationship that we had.

It was a bit unconventional, as he and I are not so social. We can both work in a crowd, but neither of us really wanted to. We would normally meet up at the same location (normally somewhere peaceful outside) and drink a beer sitting quietly watching the world around us. These are the times I will miss the most, my alone buddy, my friend who I didn’t have to talk to, and we both knew we didn’t have to.

I recently had my wisdom teeth surgically removed, (kind of why I haven’t posted in a while due to complications) and I wasn’t feeling well last Friday when him and my mother-in–law came up to see both of my boys (who are in the marching band) march together. This was the last opportunity I had to see him and I missed it. I would give anything to go back and be able to see him one more time but that wasn’t to be.

He passed away on Monday, August 27, 2018 at the age of 64 years young. This put our relationship at an age of 20 years, 20 years I will cherish and remember for the rest of my life. He is the reason I am the husband and father that I am today, and I never got to thank him for that. I hope he knew that I loved him very much and I will miss him dearly.

Robert “Bob” Michael Herzing

December 26, 1953 – August 27, 2018


Robert “Bob” Michael Herzing, age 64, of Ebony, VA. died August 27, 2018. He served the United States Navy as a Senior Chief Electronic Technician for 22 years and was an active member of the Coast Guard Auxiliary. Mr. Herzing is survived by his wife of 43 years, Sherry Herzing of Ebony, VA; his daughter Michelle Norman and her husband Jeff of Elizabeth City, NC; his son, Michael Herzing and his wife Courtney of Chesapeake; his three grandsons: Tyler, Lucas and Grayson; his sister, Debbie Maschmann and her husband Michael of O’Fallon, MO; many nieces and nephews and his mother-in–law, Shirley McDonald.